Kevin Unterstein was an assistant coach on that 2011 team. They were teammates for a year at Hofstra when DeNapoli used to sleep on his couch, and they later played together with the Lizards. They were set to be two of the key cogs as defensive midfielders for the 2018 U.S. team. He knows DeNapoli as well as anyone in the sport.
“There’s never a moment when DeNap isn’t playing with an edge,” said Unterstein, now an assistant coach at North Carolina. “He has played at the highest level in our sport and always plays with something to prove. That is what always separated him from everyone else on the field. As a teammate, he’s a ‘foxhole guy.’ Whether you’re right or wrong, he’s always there for you.”
And that’s part of the reason Unterstein tried to be there for DeNapoli during an incredibly difficult time.
Unterstein was on the field with DeNapoli the night he was injured, just a couple of weeks from the start of the U.S. training camp leading up to the world championship.
“It completely changed the atmosphere, not only in the game, but in the entire stadium,” Unterstein said. “He worked toward that moment his entire life and to see it taken away from him like that was utterly heart-wrenching. I felt completely helpless in that situation, knowing what had happened, just wishing we could turn back the clock.”
It shook Unterstein to the point that he didn’t dress for another game until he was in a U.S. uniform.
“It was a tough time,” DeNapoli said. “I had my surgery a day or two before the games began and I was watching it in my bed. It was tough to watch at times. There were times when I was feeling sorry for myself and asking, ‘Why me?’ I’d find myself thinking I should be out there.
“I had to convince myself that these are injuries and it’s a part of the game. Feeling down or even depressed was not going to help the situation.”
Unterstein was one of the people who reached out to DeNapoli from Israel.
“I couldn’t even begin to imagine what he was going through, and I just wanted him to know that we all were thinking about him,” Unterstein said. “To us, he was as big of a part of the world championship as everyone participating in the game.”
“I’d text [Unterstein] good luck and he’d text back, ‘We all miss you here,’ and that helped keep my sanity,” DeNapoli said.
But texts aren’t a substitute for the real thing.
“The hardest part was the bittersweet feeling of watching them win the gold,” DeNapoli said. “Yes, I was a part of that team, but I wasn’t physically there.”