What has lacrosse given you so far in your career?
In lacrosse, the teamwork aspect has been very helpful now that I am a teacher. Lacrosse has made it so that I can work with people. I'm a campus captain, but I'm also a captain on the men's lacrosse team, so those leadership skills, being able to talk and get points across, as well as being available for people -- those are all traits I got from lacrosse.
What’s most enjoyable about being part of a growing program at New Paltz?
With us being new, we have a lot of close-knit guys. We're a small family because a lot of these teams that we play against have like 50 guys on the roster and we don't have those numbers. There aren’t individual groups between us, and we all stay close. At New Paltz, everyone on the team hangs out with each other. Even if we have different views, we're still all together in one big family.
How did you get involved with The Hidden Opponent and Campus Captains?
One of my friends, Morgan Woolley, is the head of the mental health committee at my school. She taught me about Campus Captains and Hidden Opponent, and I was drawn to it. I dealt with my mental health issues and I'm sure people in the future are going to deal with mental health, especially in sports. I wanted to be that person that could be their helping hand. The Campus Captains sounded like a great opportunity to me.
What has been your experience dealing with mental health struggles?
Changing from high school to college was difficult. I was at a great program at Farmingdale, where you're expected to win, you're expected to make it to these playoff games. Going to a new college program, you're going to see struggles. The first year we didn't win any games. I did have some mental issues in those early years, not eating a lot, and stressing about everything. I learned ways of coping, like using music and breathing techniques. I realized that I needed to take care of myself before it got worse. I thought I did well working it out, focusing on myself and it helped me get better as a player these past few years.
If you could talk to someone who is dealing with the same issues, what would you tell them?
Just take it one day at a time. I go by this one phrase — at least get one percent better each day. If I improve on one little thing at a time, it could go a long way. If I didn't push my limits, I would not be where I am today on the lacrosse field. We can't be complacent with our mental health. Make sure that you take the time to focus on yourself, at home or with friends. Separate lacrosse and your mental health, if you can.
There is a stigma that exists around men talking about their mental health. Is this something you’ve experienced?
Yes, but I think more men are starting to talk about mental health. I know so many coaches, specifically men, that still don't get mental health. I think this is changing as the new generation becomes coaches and takes leadership positions. The men’s players are more willing to talk it out compared to a long time ago. Even 10 years ago, it was very hard for men to speak up about mental health. We’re in a generation that’s breaking the stigma. For men, it's hard to get our emotions out sometimes Even for me, I don't even want to say if I'm feeling bad. I'm just going to say ‘I'm OK.’ I need to work on that. We need to be in a safe space. We need to trust our teammates. We need to trust and be willing to make changes and say you’re not OK. That’s the hardest step.
What else would you like to do to raise mental health awareness?
I think we do well with promoting mental health, but I don't want us to overdo it. We have to speak to people in a way that they will listen. We need to make sure that whatever else gets talked about, it’s not getting forced and it’s not making people tired of it. We have to find that balance between making sure that we promote mental health and giving people space to explore their own thoughts.